Lube is really a sex essential. Make sure you have plenty of it! Lubrication heightens pleasure and reduces friction that can irritate sensitive tissues. You should never use an oil-based lubricant (or petroleum) with your toys since it is both hard to remove and damaging to many vibrator surfaces, not to mention they can harbor bacteria causing nasty infections! Also oil and petroleum can break down latex, thus damaging condoms and making them lose their reason for being there in the first place. When women are aroused, we produce our own natural lubrication. Yes, nature wants us to have sex! Some women are naturally very "juicy" and have no problem producing plenty of lubrication. However, there are times in your life when you just won't produce enough lube for the fun you had in mind. You are NOT less of a woman if you have a bottle of lube handy! Some examples:
Right after their periods, lots of women are fairly dry for a few days.
If you're dehydrated you won't product enough lube.
If you just hopped out of the shower or bath and you're all clean it can take a while for the juices to get flowing again.
Many women have serious problems with vaginal dryness as they move through aging & menopause.
Sometimes you head is in the mood and your body's just not cooperating!
What about "just having some oral fun to slick everything up"...I am totally in favor of oral fun! But one thing to keep in mind is that natural lubrication and saliva both dry up very quickly. With saliva, you really only get a few seconds before its gone. You do NOT want to be in the middle of the act and start chafing! Just have a bottle of lube handy, it's good for you!
Lube will slick everything up and reduce friction, sometimes delaying orgasm for BOTH partners!
Lube prevents chafing. You do NOT want to chafe on your "fun parts" it hurts a lot.
Water- and silicone-based lube keeps latex strong, great for condoms AND diaphragms, other latex toys!
Lube prevents a major penis injury. A little known fact...you can break a penis! If you've ever seen a penis with a serious right-angle crook to it, it's a condition known as Peyronie's syndrome and occurs as a result of trauma. One way that it happens is if the man is lying down and you (the woman) are riding cowgirl, wheee! You're jumping up all the way off his penis, and then landing back down on it hard. If his penis goes in your vagina and hits a dry spot it will stop moving, or if his penis misses your vagina and hits your pubic bone. However, if your full weight is still coming down, it will snap his penis hard to the side. You will hear a cracking sound, this is an interior membrane rupturing. It will fill with blood and swell to grotesque proportions while he's screaming his head off. That's an ER trip: Ask for the urologist on call, it can be treated; if it is NOT treated, he may not be able to get an erection later in life. (Note: For any sexual emergency, swallow your pride and tell them WHY you are there to get the appropriate treatment in the appropriate time frame!)
Ok, now that you know lube is good for you, let me tell you that there are more ways to use it than just during regular intercourse:
It's essential for anal play because the anus doesn't produce its own lube.
It's great for masturbation. For guys, it's more slippery than lotion (and who wants all their good hand lotion being used up by their husbands?!). For women, if you have a toy that needs to be inserted, make sure it's lubed up really well. If you're having external play, note that the clitoris does not like to be touched when it's dry, so a little lube feels great!
It's great for oral fun! A flavored lube can not only make the experience feel good, but taste delicious, too.
All of our lubes are nontoxic.
You gotta have it if you're using condoms.
Why should you buy lube from me as opposed to in the drugstore? First, I highly recommend a lube that is designed for intimate purposes. KY Jelly (just the jelly, not the liquid) is meant for medical exams, that's why it's cold and sticky much of the time. Astroglide and KY liquid are very slippery, but they contain high amounts of glycerin (KY liquid actually tastes sweet and it's not supposed to be flavored!). If you are prone to yeast infections, you need to keep all forms of sugar away from your vagina, as it can trigger an infection. Glycerin is an ingredient to keep a lube from drying up, but it is also a type of sugar. Too much can be bad news in those of you who tend to get yeast infections. Three of our lubes have no glycerin at all, the rest have very low amounts of glycerin.
Here's how to test lube (and this is how they test it at the Adam & Eve offices). Put a drop on your thumb. Take another finger, usually the index finger, and slide the pads of your finger and thumb back and forth while pressing (without lube, this would generate friction and heat up). If you can do it 75 times and it's still slippery, that's a good lube!
All of our lubes are condom-safe, non-staining, and nontoxic.
Silicone lubricant cannot be used with silicone toys (it fuses and melts ~ YIKES!). Silicone lubes can be used for massage because they just don't dry up! They can also be used slicked over newly shaved skin (great on bikini line) to keep a soft silky feel to the skin.
For vibrators with sleeves or accessories, you will find the dry lubrication of cornstarch powder provides easy attachment and removal. These vibrators are also ideas for sensual massages with your lover.
Special thanks to Laura Poole for her insight on this subject!
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